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i am in a relationship with my vagina; it's give and take. ;-)

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!!! if i post something -ist, erasive, offensive or downright inappropriate and out of line please call me out or point out where i went wrong !!! of course you're not obligated to notify me or approach me or anything… but like what i'm saying is that i seriously welcome it if you do and so i may properly apologize and know what i can do to improve in the future

i'm learning and that is not an excuse

in my learning i have realized that (cis) female privilege is not a thing and i will not beg for your forgiveness, sorry dudes. please stop using my willingness to check myself as a way to abuse me. thank !!!

!!! if you follow me, you’re a radfem and you notice that i haven’t followed you back, please let me know and i will !!!

~if you would ever need or want me to reply in private, please feel free to simply request that when you contact me and it will never be a problem~

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September 15, 2014 at 8:10pm
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Reblogged from protego-et-servio
chickdeney:

protego-et-servio:

rulegibber:

The answer is nobody, because society does not favour men who complain.

Of course it doesn’t favor “men who complain.”  
It does favor men who assert themselves, who speak against what’s wrong and speak up for what is s right; it values leaders and mavericks, loud-mouthed or soft-spoken.  As long as they’re male.
If they’re female, they are called bossy, naggy, bitchy, attention whores and many other nasty things.

What’s fucked up about rulegibber’s comment is they automatically associate women’s opinions/personality as complaining

chickdeney:

protego-et-servio:

rulegibber:

The answer is nobody, because society does not favour men who complain.

Of course it doesn’t favor “men who complain.”  

It does favor men who assert themselves, who speak against what’s wrong and speak up for what is s right; it values leaders and mavericks, loud-mouthed or soft-spoken.  As long as they’re male.

If they’re female, they are called bossy, naggy, bitchy, attention whores and many other nasty things.

What’s fucked up about rulegibber’s comment is they automatically associate women’s opinions/personality as complaining

(via riotinglesbian)

8:09pm
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Reblogged from fauxcyborg

It is not possible to be truly balanced in one’s views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple’s problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn’t abuse.

— 

"Why Does He Do That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

(via lesbian-lily)

I have never seen the Neutrality Fallacy explained so succinctly before.

(via appropriately-inappropriate)

"We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." - Elie Wiesel

(via radicalfeministuprising)

(Source: fauxcyborg, via hypnictwitch)

8:00pm
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Reblogged from monosexuals

monosexuals:

femininity is sooo intertwined w capitalism too like if you needed more proof that its not harmless. There are billion dollar industries built on making women feel like shit. And these companies are all owned by men. These men make money off us and then tell us we arent good enough so that they can make more money off us. 

you know that phrase “being a woman is expensive”? thats not an accident.

(via yourlocalfreak)

4:28pm
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if ur radfem and you know it ask for my FB

*clap clap*

4:18pm
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Reblogged from socialjusticekoolaid

socialjusticekoolaid:

CNN has obtained a video, taken shortly after Michael Brown was shot, that shows a contractor who had been working near the shooting site describing the incident in a manner that matches other eyewitness testimony—raising his arms and shouting “man, he was going like this,” as if to suggest that Brown had adopted a posture of surrender before he died.

Two contractors are shown in the video, and both have spoken to CNN; one also spoke previously to the St. Louis Post-Dispatch and one to Fox affiliate KTVI. The individual who is shouting and raising his arms in in the video told CNN that “the cop didn’t say get on the ground. He just kept shooting.” The other said that he saw officer Darren Wilson “chasing” Brown, that Wilson fired a shot at Brown while Brown’s back was turned, and that Brown raised his hands before he died, though it’s not clear at what point the witness saw Brown’s hands raised. (For what it’s worth, it seems like the worker who spoke to KTVI is the one wearing a pink shirt in the video and that the worker who spoke to the Post-Dispatch is wearing a green shirt.)

The CNN account notes that the workers are not from Ferguson and did not know the Brown family—a detail that could increase their perceived objectivity vis a vis witnesses from Brown’s neighborhood.

33 Days since Mike Brown’s murder, and his killer, Darren Wilson, is still a free man. How much more evidence is needed to make a fucking arrest?!  #farfromover #staywoke #ArrestDarrenWilson 

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4:17pm
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Reblogged from bellecosby

bellecosby:

sectum-and-sempra:

bellecosby:

White men can take nations but they can’t take a joke

This is a generalization.

case in point 

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4:14pm
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Reblogged from stunningpicture

(Source: stunningpicture, via ghostwholovestoast)

4:13pm
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Reblogged from laviesepoursuit

I urge you to please notice when you are happy.

— Kurt Vonnegut (via laviesepoursuit)

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4:12pm
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Reblogged from holygoddamnshitballs
holygoddamnshitballs:

Ferguson Police
Steve Sack, Cagle Cartoons, The Minneapolis Star Tribune

holygoddamnshitballs:

Ferguson Police

Steve Sack, Cagle Cartoons, The Minneapolis Star Tribune

(via ragingnewborn)

4:08pm
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Reblogged from smitethepatriarchy

Today is National Remind Your Fellow White Feminists That the 19th Amendment Only Gave White Women the Right to Vote Day

(Source: smitethepatriarchy, via thestrengthofwomen)

3:41pm
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write a thing and tag ur rapist

September 13, 2014 at 8:00pm
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Reblogged from frickyeahfeminism

frickyeahfeminism:

still waiting for someone to define gender without using the words “masculine” and “feminine” or using gender roles

(via angryfeminism)

4:00pm
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Reblogged from poldberg

liberalsarecool:

poldberg:

While there is a lot of appropriate rage about Ferguson right now, the killing of John Crawford III is getting less attention than it deserves. I put Shaun King’s tweets and history lesson on the matter in chronological order for easier consumption.

Links:

Autopsy and video show John Crawford shot from behind in Wal-Mart

Witness in murder of John Crawford changes story

You really should be following Shaun King on Twitter.

Follow @shaunking

(via dammit-jim-im-radical)

12:00pm
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Reblogged from iwriteaboutfeminism

iwriteaboutfeminism:

City Council meeting on Tuesday night in Ferguson. Part 4.

8:00am
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Reblogged from trueho

It’s Monday. I’m going home at 6pm and a middle aged man and a teenage boy are the only people left on the bus with me. I consider the fact that because the driver is also a man I am the only person left on the bus with the correct genetic makeup for boobs. I’m automatically scared, scared because of my own anatomy. I wonder how old I was when I realized that my own body was going to be the cause of the constant anxiety and fear I feel in situations like this. I get off at the last stop and the older man smiles at me while following me up the street. His smile drips, drips, drips and my heart is pounding, pounding, pounding. He turns off down another road, but I run the rest of the way home.

Not all men.

I’m at home on a Tuesday, beginning to plan the travels I want to go on next year. I dream of wandering the streets and meeting strangers. I just can’t wait to escape the city I’ve lived in for 17 long years. But… my mum is hesitant. She’s forever worried about the danger that being a young girl traveling alone can bring. I’ll be alone and she’s scared. Surely I’m invincible. I feel invincible. But I know, I know this danger is real and I can’t help but think to myself, if I feel unsafe in my own city, how am i going to feel in a strange place with strange men who don’t speak the same language as me? If I was my brother planning this, I would probably just be wondering if European girls are going to be hot.

Not all men.

Wednesday is a beautiful sunny day but I’ve always been told that I don’t have a “nice enough body” to wear a bikini on the beach. Ever since I was 6 years old I’ve thought that having tummy fat was ugly. That skin that doesn’t have a perfectly golden glow is undesirable. I amble to a clear patch of sand in my one piece and I can feel pairs of eyes latching onto me. Hairy men in speedos who I don’t look twice at eat into my body with their stares. I’m a piece of meat. I am a piece of meat? I am here for their amusement. Please don’t let me be eaten alive.

Not all men.

Thursday night two friends and I are walking to our god damn school dance when we hear “Jesus look at you! You sluts heading to a pole?” These words snarl out of the mouth of a respectably dressed man and we stop in horror. Shivers roll up my back in fear. It’s dark. We are alone. What. Do. We. Do??? One of us pulls the finger back. I can never be sure how quickly a sexist man can get angry so we walk quickly away. We’re angry, so so angry. But also so… deflated. I wonder if we deserve this shame.

Not all men.

Sitting on the internet, Friday night and scrolling down my Facebook newsfeed:

“Haha, good job at the game today bro. You RAPED them!”
“Damn with tits like that, you’re asking for it :P”

Another sexist comment…
Another sexist comment…
Another sexist comment…

I’m shrinking and shrinking and shrinking and I want to CRY because these boys don’t realize how small they make me feel with just pressing a few keys. I see these boys on the streets, I talk to these boys, I laugh with these boys. Dear GOD, dear GOD i hope these boys don’t think actions speak louder than words…

Not all men.

Three rules that have been drilled into me since I was young run through my mind at 1.30am on a Satur… Sunday Morning:

-Don’t ever talk to strange men
-Don’t ever be alone at night in a strange place
-Don’t ever get into a car with a stranger

I break all 3 of these laws as I pull open the taxi door. Making light conversation with the driver, he doesn’t see my sweaty hand clutching the small pocket knife I keep hidden on me at all times. He doesn’t even realize the fear I feel at his mere presence. He cannot comprehend it, he never will. How easy would this 15 minute car ride be if I was born a boy?

Not all men.

It comes to Sunday, another snoozy, sleepy, Sunday and someone has the AUDACITY to tell me not all men are rapists. I say nothing.

I’m a 17 year old girl.
When I am walking alone and it’s dark, it’s all men.
When I am in a car with a man I don’t know well, it’s all men.
When men drunkenly leer at me on the streets, it’s all men.
When a boy won’t leave me alone at a party, it’s all men.

Not all men are rapists. But for a young girl like me? Every one of them has the potential to be.

Not.
All.
Men.

— 

a piece i wrote for an english assignment about my personal experiences with rape culture, in particular with the saying “not all men” which i know has been makin a lot of controversy on the internet recently! idk just wanted to share (via trueho)

I am almost in tears because this hit me so hard

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