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!!! if i post something -ist, erasive, offensive or downright inappropriate and out of line please call me out or point out where i went wrong !!! of course you're not obligated to notify me or approach me or anything… but like what i'm saying is that i seriously welcome it if you do and so i may properly apologize and know what i can do to improve in the future

i'm learning and that is not an excuse

in my learning i have realized that (cis) female privilege is not a thing and i will not beg for your forgiveness, sorry dudes. please stop using my willingness to check myself as a way to abuse me. thank !!!

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July 23, 2014 at 4:00pm
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fuckingrapeculture:

[Palestinian holds up a poster:YOUTake my waterBurn my olive treesDestroy my houseTake my jobSteal my landImprison my fatherKill my motherBomb my countryStarve us allHumiliate us allBUTI am to blame: I shot a rocket back]
politicaldove:

The photo speaks louder than any caption ever could.

fuckingrapeculture:

[Palestinian holds up a poster:
YOU

Take my water
Burn my olive trees
Destroy my house
Take my job
Steal my land
Imprison my father
Kill my mother
Bomb my country
Starve us all
Humiliate us all
BUT
I am to blame: I shot a rocket back]

politicaldove:

The photo speaks louder than any caption ever could.

(via coldhearted-icequeen)

3:29pm
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http://lesradicalfeminisms.tumblr.com/post/92640541107/spagka-i-dont-owe-you-a-smile-or-my-time →

spagka:

lesradicalfeminisms:

spagka:

lesradicalfeminisms:

spagka:

lesradicalfeminisms:

coldmountainsandwarmoceans:

lesradicalfeminisms:

coldmountainsandwarmoceans:

lesradicalfeminisms:

spagka:

spagka:

I Don’t Owe You a Smile or My Time

lesradicalfeminisms:

spagka:

saintjustitude:

lesradicalfeminisms:

but that doesn’t make me stop thinking trans women are WOMEN…

Why are they trans, why are they trans women at all? 

I’ll answer this:

Frankly, it’s that they are male and are looking to appropriate “women” because they fancy wearing dresses and growing their hair out is a “feminine” thing, when in reality they have never lived a day of their sorry life as a female.

Loads of them are female fetishizing and get off on this storybook life they write for themselves. Females who eat their shit up and digest it for them are only playing a part in their twisted mind game. See: trans lesbians in other words heterosexual males who can’t take no for an answer OR homosexual males who are so internalized with their homophobia that they use misogyny (which is much more accepted socially than homophobia these days, to be honest, I mean, look at the complete stall that is third-wave feminism in the avenue of female right to life………….porn is empowering…………..really…..) as an outlet to suck some dick.

"Female brain" is not a thing and is incredibly misogynistic to even consider.

"Feminine essence" is misogynistic at best and anti-feminist at worst. 

Males can wear whatever they please for all I care, but they may NOT take from me or my sisters what has been already taken from us.

Look at it this way, if you can: Men rape us, they kill us, and for centuries they have controlled us, only to now go and call themselves by the name they gave us in the first place? No thanks. No thanks from me, personally. I can not and will not speak for other women, but I sure as hell speak for myself.

And I’ve been taught that no means no. 

Males are not females, no matter how much glitter their wear or how far they tuck their dicks.

Take care.

How fucking gross. Don’t erase teams people just because they hurt your precious woman feelings.

^^^^^ Misogynist of the day! 

Ok you can throw fucking buzzwords like misogyny at people who disagree with you all you want, it doesn’t mean you’re right though . Saying trans people exist and are valid doesn’t mean I hate my own damn gender. Bitch all you want but it doesn’t change the fact that you don’t know what misogyny really means, that you’re a pathetic person who needs a damn hobby, and that you’re an asshole.

Misogyny is not a buzz word, did you know b*tch is a misogynistic slur?

You take care now!

Seriously though, on a personal level, have you ever met a trans person before?

This is beside the point. What would having met a trans person, any trans person mind you, once in my life have done anything to change my perspective on female sex-based oppression under patriarchy? 

So I have to prove myself in this way to you, why?

To that I ask, you couldn’t address any of my other points, why?

I certainly won’t be bending over my personal self backwards to prove anything to you, since I have already been told it wouldn’t be opening your mind.

By the way, this is why I am a radical feminist.

You keep on rallying for men who think are women as you see fit, and I will rally for women. 

Take care now.

Or you can be completely dismissive and not answer me, that works. You don’t have to prove yourself, I was just asking. 

Hey there you dismissed my whole post earlier as “transphobic.”

SO I dismissed your question as “beside the point.”

You take care now.

I didn’t want to comment on all your point because I already have in the past and its not really worth my time to do so again but here are a few key points. 

I can’t find that photo post reply you posted earlier about the diff between gender and sex. IE about how women have periods and shit and that makes them women, so what about the women that don’t can’t have their periods? Are they not women? I also hate to break it to you that women can be born with testicles… Look it up. Everyone is actually born female : http://gizmodo.com/5974847/you-started-life-as-a-girl
I dunno man, for a movement that is supposed to be about equality to ALL, how can you dismiss an entire group of people? How is that not transphobic? How do you feel about non binary folx, are they “women” as long as they have a vagina and therefor can be included in feminism? Or are you just against “men that tuck their dicks in”? 
Yeah I have a personal biased, because I am friends with trans women, (well trans people in general) and to say hey you don’t deserve the same rights as me… fucking gross. I just feel its wrong. Even if they weren’t one of the most oppressed groups [internationally, historically] why would I think I deserve more rights than them? I just don’t get it. They need our support more so than someone like me (privileged white cis female).

Also, saying “take care”to everyone you don’t want to rebuttal you isn’t actually going to work.. this isn’t that 70’s show and you aren’t Fez. (or saying good day in that example) coldmountainsandwarmoceans I’m sure would agree.

Saying “Take care,” in the way I do usually, is a way of backing out for a time (that is until/if I wish to keep engaging), or showing the conversation is finished for the time and then I leave with care on a good note.

When I then further to clarify it as I did so here, “You take care now” is actually a way of backing out because I do not wish to communicate with You (personally) anymore at/on this point.

I am not a man. Your point about everyone being born female is silly and attempts to erase female sexual reality.

My last bit to this is feminism is for females, first and foremost. 

Take care,

-Sam

3:20pm
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certainly we need female-only safe spaces!!!

just look at what this world has come to as a male-only safe space.

2:41pm
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Anonymous said: one of the most telling things about transactivism is that it tells women they can only criticize trans people within certain guidelines and only if you do a specific kind of activism (even the more "progressive" transactivists do this), yet i haven't seen any other group get this kind of absolute, rigid protection. not lesbians, not disabled women, not women of colour--nobody.

redressalert:

Very true, and it is true across political bent; evident in the way ftm “medicalists” chastised twentythreetimes for “misgendering” her rapist; evident in the dust-up I got involved in earlier this week wherein Transcultist told Evilfeminist not to discuss the realities of mtf vaginoplasty.

From the male (mtf) side, it can start to reproduce a classic “nice guy” dynamic. It looks like a case of “We’ll be nice and support you against the most egregious abuses, as long as you don’t question the core suppositions that matter to us. As long as your sex-based analysis only goes so far, and as long as the limits are set and the terms of discourse are being defined by the males.” AKA “I support your right to say no, but not to me, the special exception.”

In a way, when it comes from the relatively progressive side it can be a lot more insidiously divisive.

As blackflirtlarping said, “Women recovering from years of anxiety about being ~problematic transmisogynists~ need reassurance that they’re not in fact emulating the systemic male violence they know is morally wrong, making gender critical MTF blogs a very effective gateway drug, but it’s also a little easy to never really distance herself from the political notion that MTFs are more at risk than WBF :/”

There is a feeling of “safety” in staying within the bounds of their male permission. Even though I had been trans myself, I went through a period of relying on it too, at first—because that is how much female socialization destroys our ability to trust our perceptions! But then we have males setting the terms of the “radical feminist” analysis: this far, and no further.

I think the gender-critical mtfs have a lot to say and an important perspective, but they have no place defining our priorities for us. They’re going to advance their own interests; people do, there’s no evil in it. We should listen to them and consider them if we’re gong to listen to and consider any males at all—but we can’t let them write over our own needs and priorities.

2:20pm
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Anonymous said: you continuously say that trans women don't know what it's like to be born female, but you don't know what it's like to be trans, so what gives you more right to speak over them?

maximum-soccer-revenge:

radicalblossoming:

maximum-soccer-revenge:

radicalblossoming:

porygons:

radicalblossoming:

transstar:

radicalblossoming:

i actually do know what it’s like to be trans tho???

i have talked about this on my blog before and how from the ages of 15-19 i was in the transition process of FTM which included psych evaluations, HRT, and surgery appointments including bottom surgery with Dr Brassard in Montreal, Canada.

but it never felt right to me truly, except i thought transitioning was my only option because i was a female who didn’t “feel like” the other girls because i liked sports and rough-housing with my bros and i only had guy friends and i liked to dress “like a boy” and i hated having a vagina and a period and stupid boobs and i wanted to get rid of ‘em and also i was attracted to other girls so because of those things i “felt like” a boy and thus EUREKA THE OPTION IS TRANSITION!!!!

except it was never quite right because like… dressing like a boy and binding my chest and having surgery were not ever going to genuinely make me into a boy so why was i doing this shit to myself?

anyway THERAPY OUT THE WAZOO and hurrah hello i am a very happy woman completely satisfied with herself, her lesbian identity, and her understanding of life as a woman in a patriarchy so restrictive it made her believe she had to “become” a boy just to be herself.

so ya actually i do understand what it’s like.

and how much bullshit it all is and it’s just oppressive conditioning brainwashing crap.

so. that, and a ton of detransitioned people here on tumblr can tell you their stories as well and how it’s all crap and as a woman who had to go through all of that in order to discover her true self… males who think they can step into the womanhood i fucking nearly killed myself for (AS A FEMALE, NO LESS) can sit down rn.

"Oh, I’m an idiot and thought being a tomboy meant I’m trans, so every trans person is that way!" All you radical feminist detransitioners are the same way. Blame everyone but yourselves.

You’re reaching really hard because I was talking about my personal experiences of what it was to be trans. My personal experiences. I didn’t say anything about anyone else. Anon said I had no idea what it was to be trans, I corrected them because I lived it. I don’t speak for everyone. I was speaking for myself. Don’t put words in my mouth.

But if you want to get into it? Yeah I did feel like transitioning was my only way out when I was such a tomboy and felt so uncomfortable with all things “girly”. Because I grew up in this culture of patriarchal obsession with what women should be and how women should be and - even more damaging - how it’s believed that women simply are.

I grew up in a patriarchal society that conditions girls to believe that all women are a certain way, all women are feminine, all women should be feminine, women wear dresses, women wear make-up, women take up little space, women remain quiet, women are accommodating, women are complacent, women are subservient, women are delicate, women are dainty, women are damsels, women need a knight, women don’t curse, women don’t get rough, women don’t like sports, I could go on for days about the messages all young girls receive about what it is to be a woman because of patriarchy and “gender”.

And when I, as a young girl, didn’t fit into any of that and was constantly reprimanded for not sitting with my knees together and not being pretty enough and not sitting quietly, and for wanting to run around with my guy friends, and for being athletic, and for fighting my mother when she wanted me to wear dresses or curl my hair… when I as a young girl didn’t fit into anything that girls “should be” or “are supposed to be” the messages were incredibly conflicting and scary and confusing and if I wasn’t any of the things girls are then… what could I be?

"Gender" taught me that I was probably a boy. I didn’t "identify" with anything of what girls are, I didn’t "feel like" I could ever get on page with the other girls I knew, so… boy?

That’s what our culture does to people who don’t fit in to the expectations of gender and it’s fucked up. It’s so fucked up.

Here’s the thing, though: you said yourself, you weren’t trans. You were never trans. You did not, do not have gender dysphoria and your experiences are not comparable to those of people who do.

And transitioning is not about “becoming” the opposite gender. It is about already being that gender despite your body’s sex characteristics.The fact that you wanted to “become” male should have been a red flag in and of itself.

I believed I was trans. So did the entire team I worked with in my transition process. It was through therapy and feminism that I realized what bullshit it all was. Yes, I did believe I was trans.

Secondly gender is not A Thing. Gender is not a real thing. Gender is not a tangible real thing. Gender is a tool of patriarchy to enforce female subordination. That’s the entire point of gender. A male cannot be a female. A female cannot be a male. Changing sex is literally not possible and no amount of HRT or surgery will ever make your sex different than what it is.

So males cannot “already be" a different gender (aka women) because they are male.

There is only one way to “be” a woman and that is to be a female human being in the adult stage of life. That’s all the word “woman” means. It’s just the word we use to classify a stage of life in a female person. A child female is a girl, an adult female is a woman. A child male is a boy, an adult male is a man.

If you are not a female you cannot be a woman. Sex cannot change. It’s biologically impossible.

But you very likely did not have gender dysphoria, so you were not trans. There’s a difference between “disliking your primary/secondary sex characteristics because you feel a disconnect from them” and “disliking your primary/secondary sex characteristics because you don’t like how they are associated with their assigned gender roles”. And not all transgender people even “dislike” their sex characteristics, but still feel a marked alienation from their own body.

Due to the sexual dimorphism in humans, the brains of males and females are different. It’s been shown that the brains of female-to-male transgender people are closer to those of cisgender males, while the brains of male-to-female transgender people are closer to those of cisgender females. So transgender people really are men and women in the wrong body.

One may believe that sex cannot change, and I can understand that, but hormone replacement therapy and surgery really does help those that are actually transgender.

A little off-topic, but there exists conditions like “Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome”, where one’s cells are partially or completely unresponsive to androgens. In those with XY chromosomes, they will pretty much develop as a female, despite their chromosomes. Would you call these people “impaired men” or “women”?

HRT and surgery can also really destroy people. I don’t think that no one ever should take HRT or have surgery. I think people should do what is going to ultimately fulfill them so long as it doesn’t harm or infringe upon the rights of others. But I don’t think HRT and surgery should be the default and that a lot of therapy should have to come first with therapists off different schools of thought who can work through gender issues.

That said if it comes out in the end that HRT and surgery are “right” for that person then have at ‘em.

But that does not entitle males to female spaces nor does it entitle them to the title of “woman”.

Finally with your last point - we are talking about males and females who “feel like” the opposite. Don’t use other individuals’ medical conditions as your scapegoat. That’s rude.

HRT and surgery works for those who do struggle with dysphoria. I guess more people need to get that being transgender is about gender dysphoria, not gender roles. Many people think that it is all about gender roles, which results in people transitioning, but then detransitioning because it ultimately did not work for them. It also reinforces gender roles, and makes hormones and surgery a lot harder for actual transgender people to obtain, too.

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Of course these are not all the intricacies that differ the term gender from the reality of sex, this provides a great starting point!

2:14pm
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Anonymous said: you continuously say that trans women don't know what it's like to be born female, but you don't know what it's like to be trans, so what gives you more right to speak over them?

redressalert:

shamelesslyunladylike:

radicalblossoming:

i actually do know what it’s like to be trans tho???

i have talked about this on my blog before and how from the ages of 15-19 i was in the transition process of FTM which included psych evaluations, HRT, and surgery appointments including bottom surgery with Dr Brassard in Montreal, Canada.

but it never felt right to me truly, except i thought transitioning was my only option because i was a female who didn’t “feel like” the other girls because i liked sports and rough-housing with my bros and i only had guy friends and i liked to dress “like a boy” and i hated having a vagina and a period and stupid boobs and i wanted to get rid of ‘em and also i was attracted to other girls so because of those things i “felt like” a boy and thus EUREKA THE OPTION IS TRANSITION!!!!

except it was never quite right because like… dressing like a boy and binding my chest and having surgery were not ever going to genuinely make me into a boy so why was i doing this shit to myself?

anyway THERAPY OUT THE WAZOO and hurrah hello i am a very happy woman completely satisfied with herself, her lesbian identity, and her understanding of life as a woman in a patriarchy so restrictive it made her believe she had to “become” a boy just to be herself.

so ya actually i do understand what it’s like.

and how much bullshit it all is and it’s just oppressive conditioning brainwashing crap.

so. that, and a ton of detransitioned people here on tumblr can tell you their stories as well and how it’s all crap and as a woman who had to go through all of that in order to discover her true self… males who think they can step into the womanhood i fucking nearly killed myself for (AS A FEMALE, NO LESS) can sit down rn.

Detransitioners NEVER “count” for these people. It’s a “no true scotsman” fallacy: if you detransition, then you were never truly trans.

<3 Indeed, Shamelesslyunladylike, and thank you for getting that.

Never mind that in our little pack of detransitioned women we can count women who had sex dypshoria in addition to women whose dysphoria started as a gender problem; women who passed and women who never did; women who were “true transsexual” “truscum” with intractable dysphoria from childhood and women who were “genderqueer” “genderspecials;” women who were/are butch and women who were never lesbian. The hierarchies of realness—“status” stratifications—are toxic to us all.

I’ve been around long enough to watch the Official Line on Real Transness change mightily to adapt to new critiques. It has “transitioned,” if you will.

The irony’s thicker than I can manage: trans means you are whatever you feel yourself to be uwu; detransitioned means you’re a delusional fuckup. A woman is anyone who says they are a woman; a detransitioned woman is an “iidiot” for being gender-fucked by patriarchy.

And of course if any one of us said tomorrow that we were going back, we’d be “real” again.

1:57pm
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We are Israeli reservists. We refuse to serve. | Washington Post →

socialismartnature:

There is a list of all the signers if you click through to the website.

#Israel is a War Criminal

1:54pm
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Anonymous said: not feeling like other girls is not the same as actually being transgender, even if you did participate in the physical aspect. i could get hormones and a gender reassignment surgery, but since i still FEEL like my coercively assigned gender, i would still be cis.

radicalblossoming:

stfutransactivistbullies:

radicalblossoming:

My doctor who referred me to a psychiatrist for evaluation begged to differ.

My psychiatrist, Dr Lorne Warneke at Grey Nuns Gender Clinic, who felt I met all the necessary criteria to explore transition medically and referred me to a endocrinologist begged to differ.

My endocrinologist who felt I met all necessary criteria after I had been “living as” a boy for 1 year and thus recommended HRT begged to differ.

Dr Pierre Brassard in Montreal who evaluated and mapped out my top surgery, and discussed my options for bottom surgery after enough time on HRT begged to differ.

I went through all that. I experienced it. I lived it. That was my life.

But regardless, in coming through all of that I have learned a lot about myself and what it is to be a woman. Had I completed transition I would probably have killed myself before I reached the age I am now. Thank god a patient, wonderful, understanding therapist helped me to save myself from that life.

But, as I have for seven months now, I’ll ask you the question I’ve posted to numerous others. What does it “feel” like to be a woman?

And feel free to claim “cis” for yourself but know that radical feminists reject gender and “cis” does not apply to any of us nor is it anyone’s place to assign it to us.

Look at this bullshit. 

They get to claim to ‘feel like girls’ or ‘feel like boys’ but when a woman was ACTUALLY LED TO BELIEVE SHE WAS REALLY SUPPOSED TO BE THE OPPOSITE SEX because of bullshit gender roles and stereotypes, they dismiss her and deny her experience.

THIS is why I can’t take the majority of these ‘trans’ assholes seriously.

Women don’t matter. The feelings of males are most important.

^^^^^ The trans movement summed up in two sentences.

1:54pm
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(Source: zay4ik, via yourlocalfreak)

1:37pm
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hellborndaughter:

I’m just so proud of teenage radical feminists, you girls are so strong and aware despite all the shit you have to go through!

I wish I could have been like you when I was your age, you are going to change lives.

Teenage radfems are the future.

femmephrodite !!!!!!!!!!!!

(via aislingetmaya)

1:34pm
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Anonymous said: you continuously say that trans women don't know what it's like to be born female, but you don't know what it's like to be trans, so what gives you more right to speak over them?

redressalert:

radicalblossoming:

porygons:

radicalblossoming:

transstar:

radicalblossoming:

i actually do know what it’s like to be trans tho???

i have talked about this on my blog before and how from the ages of 15-19 i was in the transition process of FTM which included psych evaluations, HRT, and surgery appointments including bottom surgery with Dr Brassard in Montreal, Canada.

but it never felt right to me truly, except i thought transitioning was my only option because i was a female who didn’t “feel like” the other girls because i liked sports and rough-housing with my bros and i only had guy friends and i liked to dress “like a boy” and i hated having a vagina and a period and stupid boobs and i wanted to get rid of ‘em and also i was attracted to other girls so because of those things i “felt like” a boy and thus EUREKA THE OPTION IS TRANSITION!!!!

except it was never quite right because like… dressing like a boy and binding my chest and having surgery were not ever going to genuinely make me into a boy so why was i doing this shit to myself?

anyway THERAPY OUT THE WAZOO and hurrah hello i am a very happy woman completely satisfied with herself, her lesbian identity, and her understanding of life as a woman in a patriarchy so restrictive it made her believe she had to “become” a boy just to be herself.

so ya actually i do understand what it’s like.

and how much bullshit it all is and it’s just oppressive conditioning brainwashing crap.

so. that, and a ton of detransitioned people here on tumblr can tell you their stories as well and how it’s all crap and as a woman who had to go through all of that in order to discover her true self… males who think they can step into the womanhood i fucking nearly killed myself for (AS A FEMALE, NO LESS) can sit down rn.

"Oh, I’m an idiot and thought being a tomboy meant I’m trans, so every trans person is that way!" All you radical feminist detransitioners are the same way. Blame everyone but yourselves.

You’re reaching really hard because I was talking about my personal experiences of what it was to be trans. My personal experiences. I didn’t say anything about anyone else. Anon said I had no idea what it was to be trans, I corrected them because I lived it. I don’t speak for everyone. I was speaking for myself. Don’t put words in my mouth.

But if you want to get into it? Yeah I did feel like transitioning was my only way out when I was such a tomboy and felt so uncomfortable with all things “girly”. Because I grew up in this culture of patriarchal obsession with what women should be and how women should be and - even more damaging - how it’s believed that women simply are.

I grew up in a patriarchal society that conditions girls to believe that all women are a certain way, all women are feminine, all women should be feminine, women wear dresses, women wear make-up, women take up little space, women remain quiet, women are accommodating, women are complacent, women are subservient, women are delicate, women are dainty, women are damsels, women need a knight, women don’t curse, women don’t get rough, women don’t like sports, I could go on for days about the messages all young girls receive about what it is to be a woman because of patriarchy and “gender”.

And when I, as a young girl, didn’t fit into any of that and was constantly reprimanded for not sitting with my knees together and not being pretty enough and not sitting quietly, and for wanting to run around with my guy friends, and for being athletic, and for fighting my mother when she wanted me to wear dresses or curl my hair… when I as a young girl didn’t fit into anything that girls “should be” or “are supposed to be” the messages were incredibly conflicting and scary and confusing and if I wasn’t any of the things girls are then… what could I be?

"Gender" taught me that I was probably a boy. I didn’t "identify" with anything of what girls are, I didn’t "feel like" I could ever get on page with the other girls I knew, so… boy?

That’s what our culture does to people who don’t fit in to the expectations of gender and it’s fucked up. It’s so fucked up.

Here’s the thing, though: you said yourself, you weren’t trans. You were never trans. You did not, do not have gender dysphoria and your experiences are not comparable to those of people who do.

And transitioning is not about “becoming” the opposite gender. It is about already being that gender despite your body’s sex characteristics.The fact that you wanted to “become” male should have been a red flag in and of itself.

I believed I was trans. So did the entire team I worked with in my transition process. It was through therapy and feminism that I realized what bullshit it all was. Yes, I did believe I was trans.

Secondly gender is not A Thing. Gender is not a real thing. Gender is not a tangible real thing. Gender is a tool of patriarchy to enforce female subordination. That’s the entire point of gender. A male cannot be a female. A female cannot be a male. Changing sex is literally not possible and no amount of HRT or surgery will ever make your sex different than what it is.

So males cannot “already be" a different gender (aka women) because they are male.

There is only one way to “be” a woman and that is to be a female human being in the adult stage of life. That’s all the word “woman” means. It’s just the word we use to classify a stage of life in a female person. A child female is a girl, an adult female is a woman. A child male is a boy, an adult male is a man.

If you are not a female you cannot be a woman. Sex cannot change. It’s biologically impossible.

Radicalblossoming, I am here for you and I back you up 100%. Your clarity is gorgeous. You’re the voice of a sea-change.

They will continue to come out of the woodwork to try and shut you up now, but I can see you’re no shrinking violet and you aren’t gonna let them.

Let’s talk, new friend! PM or email me at redressalert@gmail.com. <3

radicalblossoming you are radical and refreshing. I personally can’t be grateful enough to read your words and share your perspective. 

I see in myself that I could have gone the route of trans. Please if you ever want to talk or need support for anything, let me know.

Take care and love always,

-Sam

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Anonymous said: sending so much love and support your way <3

I feel it, thanks. <3 

Love and good feelings sending to you too. 

If you ever need support or anything, please feel free to ask.

Take care,

-Sam

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beautysupplythot:

femmephrodite:

a boy/man who likes wearing dresses/pink/nail polish/sparkly stuff isn’t a “trans woman” can you not see how misogynistic saying that is?

Why are you defining other women’s womanhood like… Do you even know how hard and expensive it is to transition Do you even know what the duck you’re talking about lmao sis like what kinda elementary logic teas???

Why are you ignoring social analysis like….Do you even know how hard and expensive it is to be a women? Do you even know what the fuck you’re talking about lmao!!?!?!

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femmephrodite:

straighter:

bestpal:

femmephrodite:

bestpal:

femmephrodite:

a boy/man who likes wearing dresses/pink/nail polish/sparkly stuff isn’t a “trans woman” can you not see how misogynistic saying that is?

go to hell and get there by yourself

welp we found the gender brigade guys. is…

But like… You’re 13 grow up your point is irrelevant when you can buy a pack of squares get back to bestpal until then log out and go to school educate yourself lmaoo yu wouldn’t last .05 seconds in the body of a trans woman talking about how hard it is for cis females when you got google search right there telling you stacks and stacks of statistics on how your corny ass is wrong but okay why am I even talking to you your 13 and white boo hoo life’s so hard

i’m 13, white, autistic, and eastern european. wow. i’m overflowing with privilege aren’t i. also the original post is talking about how saying that enjoying traditionally feminine things makes you a “trans women” is misogynistic and harmful but of course that went completely over your deluded little head.

bestpal should stop harassing teenage girls and calling it feminism

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justradfemthings:

Having misogynistic slurs used against you by people who call themselves feminist :)

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