the autumnal colour spectrum
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the autumnal colour spectrum
#1 tactic emotional abusers will use to get you to comply to their wishes is threatening suicide or self harm, don’t fall for it
If you notice whenever you get real with a person who is treating you like shit, and they immediately shrivel up into this pathetic ball of self loathing so that somehow you’re the one comforting them, they are an emotional abuser.
don’t fall for it
Autism is a poorly-understood neurological disorder that can impair an individual’s ability to engage in various social interactions. But little 5-year-old Iris Grace in the UK is an excellent example of the unexpected gifts that autism can also grant – her exceptional focus and attention to detail have helped her create incredibly beautiful paintings that many of her fans (and buyers) have likened to Monet’s works.
Little Iris is slowly learning to speak, whereas most children have already begun to speak at least a few words by age 2. Along with speech therapy, her parents gradually introduced her to painting, which is when they discovered her amazing talent.
“We have been encouraging Iris to paint to help with speech therapy, joint attention and turn taking,” her mother, Arabella Carter-Johnson, explains on her website. “Then we realised that she is actually really talented and has an incredible concentration span of around 2 hours each time she paints. Her autism has created a style of painting which I have never seen in a child of her age, she has an understanding of colours and how they interact with each other.”
Much better version of the same subject matter I posted earlier.
If it’s a person’s unalienable right to invent their gender or have more than one then it’s my right to reject the gender cage as nonsense.
Don’t you dare call me “cis”. I do not identify as a woman. I am a woman. I am more than a series of stereotypes and misconceptions that a person can dress up into as they choose.
[adapted from a private message]
First, I want to clarify my own beliefs and what I mean by trans activism or trans ideology. I do not support any kind of violence towards trans people. I loosely align myself with trans medicalism and when I criticize trans activism, I’m heavily directing that criticism towards people who think social dysphoria is a thing, people who think you don’t need dysphoria to be trans, and anyone who thinks gender is something you feel innately. Click here for more information about gender abolitionism.
I’m going to use this link as my jumping off point for this discussion. It’s a good read, focused a little too specifically on religious cults for my taste, but very succinct. Not everything in this article applies to trans activism. This article defines aspects of what it refers to as “mind control,” brainwashing or manipulation tactics that cults use to gain and keep a following.
The first tactic named is deception. Trans activism is awash with misinformation. First, of course, there is the great lie that is gender identity: that gender is something you experience innately, rather than an organized system of behaviors that are deemed appropriate for or related to males and females (ie masculinity/femininity). It is a lie to say that you are inherently a woman because you feel better when your hair is long and you like to wear girl clothes, justifications given by Janet Mock in her book Redefining Realness.
Other ways trans activists use deception include:
- Brain sex is a lie. There is no such thing as a male or female brain.
- The statistic that 1 in 12 trans people are murdered is false. (tldr: if 1 in 12 trans people are murdered there should be a lot more bodies, plus there’s no original source for that statistic)
- They lie when they try to claim that sex is a social construct. Here’s the argument, if you care to read it. The summary is “we’re not all perfect textbook specimens of male and female so male and female don’t exist!" I don’t feel like I should have to cite why this is false, and kind of stupid.
- They lie when they claim that trans women don’t have male privilege, as auntyorthodox explains brilliantly.
- They lie when they claim that AMAB trans people don’t assault women.
- They lie about their opposition, claiming that gender-critical feminists are violent towards trans people. However, there are no records of a radical feminist attacking or assaulting a trans woman. They literally make shit up to make us look bad. And that isn’t just random trans teens on the internet talking out of their ass. That is a misinformation campaign being run by prominent activist and total creep Toni Dorsay, who ran peakradfem as a puppet account for a while.
I could go on and on about the various deceptions of gender politics, but this is really long already and I’m not even close to done.
The next tactic named is exclusivism - believing that you/your ideology alone are right and good. This tactic comes into play in tandem with others, as I’ll discuss later. Of course, every movement believes it is the right one, and a feeling of being on the moral high ground is part of that. However, this is where emotional manipulation comes in. One of the tactics trans activists love to use is privilege guilt, using a trumped-up concept of “cis privilege.” This is particularly effective on newer members of the social justice community - they know enough to understand that if someone calls them privileged, they should shut up and let the other person talk, but not enough to understand when that tactic is being used against them. This was my experience with gender politics. I had questions, things I didn’t understand - I knew there were holes in this logic. But I was scared to ask them on fear of being considered “transphobic,” and when I did I was told I just didn’t understand because I was cis.
That fear of being called transphobic brings me to the next tactic: fear and intimidation. It’s no secret that trans people are violent towards people who disagree with them. But how fucked up does it really get? I personally was outed as a sex worker to my friends and family for being vocal about radical feminism. Autumn Sandeen has put a bounty on the name and address of anonymous radfem blogger Gallus Mag. Trans activists refuse to let us congregate (see: Radfems Respond, the controversy over Michfest). They call reading our works or supporting our positions (even unrelated ones) transphobic. This is where exclusivism comes back into play. How do you leave a political ideology when just associating with people who don’t agree could get you harassed, stalked, ostracized, or worse? How safe do you feel leaving a movement full of trained killers? 20% of trans women are ex-military.
The article goes on to make a very important point: character assassination is a sure sign of a cult. Character assassination is very common among trans activists. Here’s a direct quote from the article:
“Arthur I have been a mathematician longer than you. How dare you disagree with me! You are obviously a very smug and prideful person. I think you are disagreeing with me because you are jealous of me, and to be honest with you Arthur your rebellion has really hurt me and a lot of other people too”
"I’m trans and you’re cis, how dare you disagree with me? You’re obviously just a transmisogynist shit and a racist too. You’re being violent right now and triggering me. Transmisogynist cissexist shits like you give feminism a bad name."
They gang up on dissenters. I once had to block 45 people in one night because they were reblogging everything I posted/had posted in the last week with gibberish, threats and insults just to make me feel unsafe. What did I do to deserve this? I told a man that wearing nail polish does not make him trans. That same night, I received 10 death threats… that I saw.
But it’s not just me. Remember when Piers Morgan committed the unforgivable crime of saying Janet Mock was “born a boy?” Even inadvertently implying that a trans woman is not 100% woman/female from birth no questions asked earns you harassment that trends globally. (Not that I like or respect or am defending Piers Morgan or anything he’s done)
The next tactic listed is relationship control and “love bombing.” I know less about this tactic, as I’m not personally active in the trans community. However, I have seen some things that I consider relevant to this tactic. For example, trans women have a tendency to, for lack of a better term, pat cis women on the head when they go to bat for gender politics. I see this a lot on twitter, but also here on tumblr. It’s an instant reward - peer approval! Yay! From a member of a marginalized group! Yay I’m a good ally! It also serves the purpose of making the woman feel like she’s “one of the good ones” or part of the group now. There is also the issue of how it is verboten to interact with gender-critical people, but that’s more related to the next tactic and the last one on this list I think is relevant to gender politics:
Information control. This is another favorite tactic of the gender cult. I’m sure you’ve been on tumblr long enough to know that you’re not allowed to reblog from a “terf,” regardless of what the post was about. Who is a terf? Anyone who disagrees with any facet of transgender ideology. You’re also not allowed to read books written by terfs, reblog quotes said by terfs, link to websites run by terfs, be friends with terfs, allow terfs in your spaces, etc. This is to keep people from coming into contact with legitimate criticism of trans ideology. CultWatch makes it a key point: If you are instructed by members of the group not to read information critical of the group, that is a sign of a cult.
You mention that you haven’t seen the “love bombing” approach with the gender cult. It’s true that they don’t bother to direct much of that at women - the women they label “cis” are told that it’s their job to support them - but it does get directed at people who think they might be trans, who get welcomed to the community and told that they finally have people in their lives who understand and accept them.
There’s a term within the gender cult - “cheerleading” - for telling people to ignore their doubts and transition because everything will be better.
Transactivists say the darndest things: a new daily spectacle
"not all females have a uterus and some males menstruate If you want males and females to be equal we’ve got to stop separating them as different beings"
"talking about periods and such excludes trans women"
"I’m a male who menstruates and is capable of producing children."
"women are only women if they are capable of menstruation."
Sorry not sorry to tell you this but
erasure of the actual word female from female experiences (such as menstruation) and female sex-based oppression by males through patriarchy (such as access or lack thereof to abortion) IS MISOGYNY.“According to your flawed logic, women are only women if they are capable of menstruation.”
Incorrect reading of my statement. Focus on comprehension and not condescension and you might get somewhere.
Menstruation is a biological process innate to females. That doesn’t mean ALL females experience it, but a lack of menstruation in a pre-menopausal woman does signify significant fertility issues, and females as a class are characterized by it.
Any oviparous female specimen has the ability to menstruate, since it’s how the body excretes unfertilized oocytes and pre-placental tissues.
“Therefore, if we continue along this thought, cis women who begin menopause cease to be women all together”
Incorrect. This is the sad part about shitty sex-ed: females end up completely ignorant of their own reproductive anatomy and life-cycle.
Menopause occurs when an oviparous female has, due to age or, more rarely, illness, permanently ceased to menstruate.
However, if I pluck all the feathers off a parrot, does it become anything less than a parrot?
Same thing. A female who reaches menopause doesn’t cease to become a female, she simply becomes a female beyond her reproductive term.
Jesus, this isn’t rocket science.
“or cis women who were not born with breasts or the capability to menstruate will never fully become women.”
Breasts and menstruation aren’t the same thing. One is a secondary sex characteristic that occurs only at the inception of puberty, whereas menstruation is a primary sex characteristic in that it’s an innate biological process. We can sometimes alter or change its length, course and severity, and some things (like eating disorders, starvation, high degrees of exercise and stress) may cause it to cessate, but it happens to the majority of females automatically.
Seriously, what the hell now. “
“Male and female are rigid terms for something that is actually very loose.”
Prove to me that biology is “loose”. Take a picture of your Nobel Prize while you’re at it, because proving that sexual dimorphism is incorrect would certainly earn you one. “
“You cannot make broad generalizations that ‘all females develop breasts and menstruate’ because it’s not true.”
When 99.99% of the female population develops oocytes, it’s not a generalization. Gravity doesn’t exist in space, or in certain situations here on earth; does that mean that when I say all humans experience gravity, I’m making a broad generalization?
Yes, it does.
Does it mean it’s false?
No, it doesn’t.
“Not only that, but people who are assigned male at birth due to genital structure can develop female breasts, and under certain conditions, lactate.”
Two separate issues, but I LOVE the “but Bob has bitch-tits!” argument. It reeks of early ’00s solipsism. “
Gynaecomastica occurs in a small subset of adult males and generally correlates with underlying health concerns. That’s like saying that some people experience polydactylity, so humans have six fingers. “
Galactorrhea is ALSO correlated with health issues when present in males not undergoing hormone replacement therapy.
“Again, human biology isn’t as rigid as you claim it to be. In fact you’ve forgotten that gender isn’t even always determined by genitalia or chromesomes.”“
Gender and sex are not the same thing, moron. Sex is biology, gender is culture. You can’t even figure out your own nomenclature and I’m supposed to trust you on biology? Good christ.
“Next time you try and slap biology into an argument with a transgender person, maybe you should try a little research beyond your seventh grade sexual education course.”
Does my university level biology count? Seeing as how I have all those textbooks to hand, and you can’t even figure out your own terms.
Seriously, dude. I’m sorry this chaps your ass, but biology is reality. That might be a tough pupil for you to swallow, but it’s the truth whether you agree with it or not.
a vital form of self-expression
the racist and sexist objectification and trivialization of females under white hetero-patriarchy?
lesradicalfeminisms I totally understand where you’re coming from with this, but I…
This is why I’ve never been able to hate drag queens.
When I was a teenager drag was the first thing that let me feel safe to be openly gender nonconforming. It’s that way for so many other feminine men too. I’ve met drag queens, and not a single one is ever gender conforming. Cause the truth is, drag shows are basically the only place left in the gay community for really feminine men. Without drag culture, all we’re left with is grinder profile after profile saying no femmes wanted.
The problem is too many gay men, drag queens, and trans women are complicit in the racist and sexist elements of drag. There’s all these drag queens who only see drag as about shocking people, and they think that “ironic” sexism/racism is okay because it’s shocking. They don’t get they’re not being ironic. They’re taking an outlet for gender nonconformity and using it to express their own sexist/racist beliefs.
Meanwhile we’re on the sidelines watching and encouraging these people because everyone should be having a good time and they’re “funny”.
So call out drag queens. Call out the gay community. We need to be called out since we’re letting drag become something terrible. In fact many of us are glorifying the twisted elements of drag because there’s a lot of sexism and racism already in the gay community. We may be discriminated against on one axis, but gay men, specifically gay white men, are are extremely privileged in other ways. And we need to be called out on our bullshit just like any other men.
Just please remember, there’s a lot of young, feminine, gay men who need drag cause it’s the only safe place we have.
'Just please remember, there’s a lot of young, feminine, gay men who need drag cause it’s the only safe place we have.'
drag in inherently misogynistic. admitting that and then saying women can’t take it away because gnc need it, because being treated like women are is oppressive (no shit), isn’t fair. gnc men need to make their own safe spaces that aren’t about mocking women.
I hear people say “oh my god I hate people” all the time without backlash. everyone knows they don’t hate every single individual in humanity. they have friends and family they love and hang out with. they simply hate the greedy, corrupted, oppressive nature of some human beings.
but the minute we say something about white people or men, no one seems to understand that it’s the same concept.
that’s because when someone says they hate people in general they’re not going to be discriminatory and partial to anyone despite not knowing anything about their personality. but hating a demographic of people heavily implies that they will be.
Look up Karl Marx and his sociological concept of classism, that has evolved and reinterpreted throughout the years either way I do say he’s a cool dude
"I’m a feminist but I think female bodies are a social construct and basically a conspiracy created by the patriarchy" oh ok
Sinister Wisdom, winter 2007-2008.
> try to explain how gender for centuries has simply been a tool of oppression
> OMG TERF
I really want an environmental revolution to happen soon. Gardens everywhere, herbal wisdom flourishing, intelligent environmental policies, aggressive fighting for plants, straying away from reliance on shady food industries and growing our own to help our own and nurture our own, we see everything, how it’s made and who it goes to cause it’s ours typa shit. I really want this.
DON’T STOP BELIEVING
HOLD ON TO THAT FEMALE FEELING
MALE-BODIED PEOPLE OOHOOHOHOHOHHHHHH
LOOK FOR THE GIRL WITH THE BROKEN SMILE
ASK HER IF SHE WANTS TO SHAG A WHILE
AND SHE WILLLLL COMPLY
‘CAUSE I’M A NIIIICE GUY
— Maroon 5